Should I Continue Texting Someone Who Doesnt Respond Reddit

What if you stop texting him and see what happens? Don't text him! This is a great strategy to find out if a man is genuinely interested or just likes texting.

Is He Really Interested?

I bet this has happened to you. You meet a guy online and he asks for your number or you're on Dating Apps and start texting.

Texting is fun! Sometimes it's fast and furious and other times just morning and night.

As time goes by you feel a connection and wonder when you'll meet. Anticipation builds. Maybe you suggest getting together for coffee and he agrees.

Yes! Somehow though, things never come together and he doesn't set a time or place. Texting continues.

What is this about and why won't he find the time to see you?

One Date Followed by Texting

Sometimes a guy will text often and then ask you out. You have  an amazing date and you can tell he liked you as much as you liked him. Awesome! Trouble is, he continues the texting part but doesn't ask you out again. or sets up a date and cancels.

Why did he lose interest so quickly?

Texting On and Off

Another scenario is that you text with him sporadically. There are times when you have whole conversations, then next thing you know he goes dark and you wonder where he went.

Is he OK, seeing someone else, or just busy at work?

You text him to see what's up and say something cute the first time. He bounces in and the texts begin again, then slows or stops.

You text again to ask if everything is OK? This behavior is so confusing and you feel frustrated. You still haven't met this guy and this on and off thing is getting to you.

So when things slow down, you feel like you have to do your best to keep it moving to maintain this connection with him.

The problem is you've already invested so much time and now you really like him.

What Is Ghosting?

If you are asking what is ghosting, the definition is when a man stops asking you out and no longer stays in touch, even by texting. He seems to have dropped off the planet, leaving you wondering what the heck happened.

Next, what is ghosting in texting and how is that different? Most often this is when a man has been in touch frequently by text, saying good morning or wishing you a good night's sleep. Maybe some other little text tidbits during the day too.

Or he may get more in-depth in his conversation, share a laugh or something about his day. The point is, he stops reaching out and basically goes completely silent, leaving you puzzling over your phone as if it might not be working right somehow. At least that's your hope.

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Tempted to Text and Find Out What Is Going On?

Does he like you or not? It seems like such a simple thing; so why do men make dating so difficult?

I know that's what prompts you to contact him and text again. You think, "Hey, I'll just text him and ask what's going on? Honesty between adults should be the best way to go."

So you text and say something like, "Are you still interested? If not, it's OK. I just want to know." That should be easy for him to respond to – he can't just say, "No thanks." Or, "Sorry, I'm seeing someone else."

Trouble is men tend NOT to answer direct questions like this at the start of dating.

Most men, don't want to be the bad guy. So they squirm, feel uncomfortable and tell white lies. At least that's what they think they are doing.

You get a text back that talks about how busy he is. He might apologize and start texting again. Maybe he surprises you and sets up a date, but cancels at the last minute disappointing you beyond belief.

What are you supposed to do? If being direct and asking doesn't work, then what will work to get his attention again?

Stop Texting Him and See What Happens

Yes, I'm completely serious. Just stop texting him and see what happens. This is how you learn what his true intentions are.

A man who is interested, but not setting-up dates will often become more interested when he stops hearing from you.

If you always text first, STOP.  Go silent. Observe what he does and what steps he takes to reconnect. You want to get a man's attention – disappear on him. That will make him very CURIOUS.

You are interrupting the pattern of your behavior and doing something unexpected. This is what a good man will notice and he just might stop playing this crazy game and want to meet you.

You will stand out from the other women he's texting.

Now, don't go getting your hopes up because many times a texting kind of man will never come around. But once in a while, a good man will become curious about you and decide he needs to know more.

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Many Women Don't Understand This About Dating

See, most women do the same thing you do. They prompt a guy they haven't heard from, thinking it's the right way to go. In fact, many think it's the only option.

They don't realize they should stop texting instead.

There is an energy to dating. A rhythm of push and pull or back and forth like ballroom dancing. In ballroom dancing, there is one leader and one follower.

As a woman, you follow a man's lead if you want to look good on the dance floor. It doesn't make you less important than him; it's simply how dancing works.

Follow His Lead

The same thing is true at the start of dating.

Follow a man's lead:

• If he texts, text him back.
• If he doesn't text YOU, DON'T TEXT HIM EITHER.

This is your best strategy to not waste time on men who are not genuinely interested. The truth is there are lots of men who will waste your time and string you along, BUT ONLY IF YOU LET THEM.

So, when you text because he's gone silent, you are no longer "following." You have taken up the lead and that does not work at the start of dating for most singles over 40.

It might not work so well under 40 either because dating is still an archaic mating ritual based in biology, not gender equality.

Most men like to think dating you is his idea. To create this situation, you don't want to be too available and you don't want to appear PUSHY OR DESPERATE.

But, that's what happens when you take the lead, keep the texting conversation going, etc.

Don't Text Him, You Have Nothing to Lose

When you stop texting to see what he does, you have nothing to lose. In fact, you have everything to gain because you will find out if you matter to him or not. You will understand his true interest level.

Don't kid yourself or make excuses for the guy. Men know EXACTLY what to do if they want to see you. They ask you out, set a date, pick a place and show up. And they can do all that without your help. Even shy guys know this, so don't make excuses for any man and feel you must HELP HIM OUT.

The good news is that when you don't do his job of taking the lead, you won't get invested and emotionally tied to the wrong man before you even meet him. Or before you get to know him and discover if he's even worthy of your time and interest.

L et him lead to find out what he'll do to win you over.
T hat is the ONLY WAY you'll ever know how interested he really is!

What you will lose are men who are NOT interested. Men who could care less about you or don't want a relationship.  Men who don't care enough to be consistent in their pursuit or efforts to get to know you.

Now that's something you can stand to lose, right? Who needs a man that is just filling time with you or playing with your heart?

This is how you can shake free from men who just want to string you along to boost their ego, fill time, or chase away boredom and fritter away your precious time.

Your Next Step

So if you are "talking" to a man who texts a lot or just sporadically, but doesn't ask you out, think twice. Are you putting energy into something worthwhile by interacting with him? Or exposing your heart to romantic disappointment?

Are you accomplishing anything by continuing to text this guy who hasn't met you or hasn't asked for a second date in more than a week? Unfortunately, no, not really. It's time to let go and walk away.

Stop texting him and see what happens next. If you don't hear a peep, you now have valuable information about that guy – he's not the one.

The right man for you WANTS TO MEET YOU and will do what it takes to get to know you and spend time with you.

When you don't text him, observe his actions over several weeks (like six or eight) to decide if he might have potential.

If he's consistent in staying in touch, calls at least once a week and asks you out for a date weekly (if not more), then he might be showing some lasting potential. And worthiness of your love and attention.

Until you know this about a man, play the field girlfriend! Do not narrow down your options and focus on just one man until he is consistent enough that he asks you to be exclusive.

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Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It's Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She's the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony, MSN.com, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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